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Comment on A Man’s Core by chad

chad — Wed, 20 Aug 2008 18:41:00 +0000

Also, I really, really liked your explanation of Tantra on your website… the best I’ve ever read, and I think it is an explanation that I can actually remember well enough to repeat. I won’t post the link here without your permission, of course.

- Chad

Comment on A Man’s Core by chad

chad — Wed, 20 Aug 2008 18:38:42 +0000

If you will forgive my zany sense of humor:

I wonder what Shakti and Shiva will do after they’ve screwed each other silly? I can picture them sharing a hot-dog and Coke at a ball game!

I wonder if I should write this, as it sounds disrespectful… spank me if so. I’m sure I deserve it.

Comment on A Man’s Core by Crystal Dawn

Crystal Dawn — Wed, 20 Aug 2008 17:59:25 +0000

Hi Chad,
I really like this word image. I am definitely a Shakti. Check out my blog which I just started last week. Here’s something a wrote several years ago it seems to mirror your just a bit.

Consciousness
Source
no separation

Universal breath
inhaling exhaling
duality born

Two flames burning
seeking oneness
in the heart of desire

Eyes meet
breath quickens pulse rises
moment of recognition

Two bodies one breath
two flames one fire
Yin and Yang

The wheel of life turning
always turning
and returning to the One

Crystal Dawn Morris
1/07/2005

Comment on Love’s Brittle Strength by M. Meeks

M. Meeks — Sat, 01 Sep 2007 09:31:00 +0000

But surely you are stronger now, after all this time…or is it the other way around? Just when you feel like all the glass around your heart is about to shatter again, it melts in the fire of despair, and the Phoenix arises from the ashes, stronger than he could ever imagine… You seem like a good candidate for a phoenix, my friend. Hang in there.
I hope all is well with you, I’ve been neglecting my blog reading… so glad I could catch up.
Things are ok here… just myspacing away! lol

Take care,
Mandy

Comment on Relationship Anxieties by B.W.

B.W. — Wed, 29 Aug 2007 00:10:26 +0000

Your fears…you need not be afraid. I am certain tht the right person will give you the maximum opportunity to realize this.

Comment on The “Fuck Me Baby” Effect by Mandy

Mandy — Thu, 09 Aug 2007 01:39:53 +0000

I believe the viloence comes from the inherent frustration of wanting something you are almost experiencing, but not quite… i.e., penetration. It is the light at the end of the tunnel, this penetration, this visible, tangible, yet impalpable thing. I’ve experienced the animalistic “Fuck me now”, mostly when my hormones are fluctuating, which are still a mystery to me… and although I know it’s directly related to child-bearing, I can’t psyche myself out by saying “self, I don’t want more children.” Why do I still want sex, if I don’t want more children ( to speak scientifically)?

For men, the taking of a woman violently is much like (pardon this expression) pissing on a tree. Marking their territory. Showing the other males their strength and virility. Men forget in today’s times, however, that just being a hot guy that can get laid a lot by no means makes him a man worthy of spawning the next generation.

I myself find my thoughts wandering and fantasizing about some cute guy that I say I won’t sleep with (for fear of being labeled a whore), secretly wishing he would ignore my words and read my body language. Does that sound fucked up? Probably is, but then again, you broached the topic! lol

As far as Tantric sex (which I’ve become VERY fond of), the thing that adds more frustration, more wanting and ultimately, more violent actions, is that no one but you is in charge of the ‘not having’. Something sick and sublime about denying yourself something you know you want, and could so easily have. Instead of fighting each other, we become violent in fighting ourselves, our desires. Or, is it the higher knowing of once you’ve reached the light, the arousal ceases, and therefore ceases the high? We want the release, but want to hold out as long as possible, to hang on to the longing moment. But we are human(to say that is to say nothing), and the end result is not one of a spiritual high, but of a physical release, which feels similar, but is a poor substitute. So by denying ourselves and tempting our most violent side, somehow we are closer to a higher consciousness… hmmm… fits right in with my propensity to deny myself all that I’m capable of having! lol

Comment on Nice Guy Version 2.1 by Mandy

Mandy — Sun, 05 Aug 2007 05:58:42 +0000

No such thing as a nice man, only men behaving nicely. LOVE IT!!!!! I’ve been searching for that phrase for quite some time! Thank you for summing it up for me! Really! lol

Comment on Poe-a-tree by Mandy

Mandy — Sun, 05 Aug 2007 05:13:19 +0000

Ahhh, but as a man, you lie to yourself, even here. You think you are merely seducing someone, but in reality, you are the closest thing to a female with an eating disorder. Let me connect the dots, and lift the median on the parallel…
You write poetry because you are an emotional bulemic (we can smell our own! lol), in that you voraciously feast on the incoming emotions and feelings, but later, feel the need to ‘purge’, or ‘cleanse’ yourself of everything you’ve ingested mentally. The good part is that it is a non-violent regurgitative act! That, and there are other ‘purgers’ like myself who read your vomit for what it is… and we understand it. I hope I’m not encouraging bulemia in the traditional sense, but I think you catch my meaning?

Comment on Dating and Interpreting the U.S. Constitution by Mandy

Mandy — Sun, 05 Aug 2007 04:55:51 +0000

You and I have about the same batting average as far as the online personals thing goes. But like I told you the other day on the phone… the more people I’m willing to open up to and meet, the more I can learn that will lead me in the right direction. I don’t think you are wasting your time online… I think you are doing just fine… as in, I never would have found you if you hadn’t been online. So that’s a good thing! lol Geez, it really is all about me, isn’t it? LMAO… kidding. Seriously, it’s so nice to read the thoughts of someone who is genuine, and wants to be appreciated for just that… not just a guy who “loves to be outdoors, and wants a spontaneous fun-loving woman who doesn’t mind putting up with his inner child pretending to be a grown-up, just because he’s over 35 means he’s a MAN and should be respected as such”… WHATEVUH!!! Women need to know that men like you exist!(So they don’t give up complete hope) I applaude your bravery in being honest. It is not the ‘thing’ or ‘name’ you are… It is the HONESTY that makes you shine in all your brilliance.

Comment on “Do you definitely-sometime-if-never-when” by Mandy

Mandy — Sun, 05 Aug 2007 04:43:41 +0000

I’m laughing my ass off reading this one! You have written what I have always believed about guys but never had one admit it! lol Also, ‘have sex’ has a tonality of ‘have some pate’, or , ‘have a soda’ when used frequently in one blog, as you pointed out! My brain is shifting gears in time with your words, and I feel like I’m on the Autobahn of blogs! lol